Betty's Weekly Banter: Handling Non-Committal Men

Betty is back this week and she wants you to learn how to handle non-committal men and why they are the way they are. 


Typically a guy meets a girl, there's mutual attraction, they start seeing each other and doing all couple like stuff together, although they didn't label the relationship based on previous agreement and understanding, a couple of months go by and mostly because a girl is only human she starts craving and wanting an actual relationship, then the typical non-committal guy would say "We are better like this, I’m just not relationship ready, but we could still keep seeing each other". Well I'm imagining that's what could be said, those aren't actual words as said by anyone.

He doesn't want a relationship but he wants you around? The idea of that keeps messing with the psyche of most females out there and they start thinking, "oh maybe I can change him, maybe I can make him change his mind, maybe I'd up my sex game, but he's really nice to me and that means he really likes me, spending more time with him might make him move the relationship to the next level"
Girl I'd laugh in your face if I ever came across you and you display this level of naivety.

The truth of the matter is, he's probably never going to see you as more than mere convenience. Yes he was attracted to you at the beginning when you first met him, he might have led you on to believe a relationship would come out of it eventually and you being a girl would hop on the situation-ship till it wrecks, for the guy it's like he's merely sailing  with you to know if you are good enough or if a better option would come along eventually, but the perks of dating or being in a relationship with someone is really sticking to that person and accepting that there are many more options out there that could come along but you choose to identify with a particular person because you believe in what could be.

Ladies stop over thinking the situation, don't sell yourself short, stop making excuses for him about the reasons he thinks he can't be in a relationship with you. Some of the non-committal guys would say "I'm trying to focus on my career path at the moment, relationship complicates matters, and you know all those balderdash they've fed you? Hmn. It’s all BS that you shouldn't allow to fly any-more.

From my POV, the only reasons a guy wouldn't want to be in a relationship with you is:
1. He's not that into you/ there's another option
2. He's not ready to be 'tied down'. He still wants to enter more market
3. He genuinely wants to focus on his career              
4. He's a baby, that needs to grow up, commitment is only associated with grown-ups.
5. You are pressuring him too much. Yes don't come across as desperate.

There would be a continuation of this write up next week, where I would explain the listed points in details and state my opinion about handling non-committal guys and unlabelled relationship.




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  1. Sometimes such gurls need to learn the hard way...😂 nice write-up

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